Still Crazy (and Smiling) after All These Years

Wasn’t that last post of Daniel’s lovely?  What a guy!  This November we’ll be celebrating our 21^st anniversary.  That is something of an accomplishment considering both what we have faced and what rugged individuals we are. Our circumstances and our personalities have created stresses in our marriage, but our love holds us together.  As I’ve thought about love and marriage, mine and others, I have come to believe that what holds us together is our appreciation of each other and gratitude we feel that we found each other.  As long as we have that gratitude exceeds our difficulties I expect we’ll continue to surf successfully the tides of long term marriage.

I was observing to Daniel that this is the longest time we have been apart.  He sort of laughed and reminded me that while that may be true for me, I was in a coma almost as long as he will be in California.  Sleeping through the separation is yet another reason I’m thankful for my coma.  It allowed me relief from all kinds of pain and trauma.  I am reminded from time to time however that Daniel, Jennifer, and Ron went through that trauma and all have some residual pain from the experience.  I can only hope that they are recovering from those experiences as fast as I am regaining my ability to walk.  I’m not well, and neither are they, but life does have a way of healing.  I’m hoping that Daniel’s time to be Daniel in California will help him heal and that being with Jennifer daily will help her.

 I took the ferry to Southport on Sunday to attend my church there.  Rev. Barry greeted me as a miracle.  I’m a bit embarrassed by that and yet I know that part of God’s purpose for me is to witness that miracle.  In 2003 after my first rounds of chemo, heart failure and dialysis, I asked Ken Ireland what one should do who has been blessed with such a miracle.  His response:  “advertise it.”  I’m trying; Lord, I’m trying!

 

Life is sweet for me here in Wilmington.  Zac left with friends for an overnight trip to Myrtle Beach.  This morning before he left we bought and put together a house for the Hermit Crab he captured yesterday at the beach.  Putting together that plastic crab house was such a pain.  At times Zac was crying in frustration.  I realized how wonderful it is to be as free as a child to express anguish and frustration that way.  I wish I still could.  Maybe I’ll try.

Love to you,

Bonnie for BanD

 

 

Comments

[Daniel Shurman]

Dear Bons, And to think that for the last 23 years I thought you had to be in control and I was the one who was stubborn. I love you. /Daniel

[betsy]

Keep up the good work you guys..... love, betsy

[betsy]

Are we gonna get a 4th report of beach activity? love you, betsy

[betsy hall]

Thanks Daniel fr connecting me with the eye clinic! love, betsy